It would be naive to think that age is just a number. You need to understand when it matters and when it doesn’t. The years you live are important when it comes to health. This soul can be forever young, but the body wears out. The older a person is, the more carefully he needs to monitor his well-being and periodically undergo a medical examination.
But many of the limitations that are associated with age are not of a physiological, but of a social nature. Usually they are easy to recognize – the word “indecent” is easily mounted in them:
- It is indecent for a woman to walk with long hair after forty, she needs to have a haircut.
- At your age, it is indecent to wear sneakers and jeans, it’s time to buy a suit.
- Are you planning to change jobs? You’re so old, it’s just indecent.
A mature person does not pay attention to age stereotypes. If something makes him happy, he will not refuse it and will continue to go his own way.
2. Height, foot size and other numbers
In one of the Greek myths, the robber Procrustes lured travelers to his bed. If they did not fit on it, the bandit cut off everything that stands out. If the couch was large, he pulled the travelers up to its size.
Modern culture is a kind of Procrustean bed, confused by centimeters and kilograms. It harms the psyche, because it makes one chase after an illusory ideal, often unattainable. It also physically cripples when it pushes people into anorexia or unnecessary aesthetic surgeries.
This race is pointless. Most indicators like height or leg size cannot be changed. Yes, and those that can, it is not necessary to transform at all. A mature person accepts himself and improves at will, but according to his preferences and medical recommendations, and not according to glossy standards.
3. Other people’s expectations
Everyone, of course, knows better how a person should live – from his parents to a stranger on the Internet. And they also generously share their thoughts. As a result, some give up and try to gain universal approval.
A mature person remembers that his life should please him first of all. If he doesn’t live up to other people’s expectations, it’s not his problem. It is he, not the advisers, who will be held responsible for his decisions.
4. Other people’s lives
The opposite is also true: a mature person understands that people around can also live as they want. Of course, as long as they don’t break the law.
Anyone can spend money and time in the wrong way, work in the wrong place, get involved in the wrong relationship. If he gets into trouble or asks for help, he will have to help – or not, it will already be your choice. Until then, there is no need to worry about the other person – this is someone else’s area of u200bu200bresponsibility.
5. Events that cannot be controlled
Worrying over something you can’t control is unproductive. A mature person understands this. The situation will simply suck out energy, provoke negative emotions and eventually result in prolonged stress, which has a destructive effect on the body.
Naturally, panic periodically rolls over even the most stress-resistant of us, this is normal. In this case, it is important not to succumb to it and try to cope with anxiety.
6. Missed Opportunities
Lost Profit Syndrome is an unsettling, annoying feeling that something interesting is happening to everyone around you, and only you are not participating in the celebration of life. One of the main reasons for this is social media. Everyone on Instagram* has flat bellies, fat wallets, or at least an interesting hobby. No, no, you will think: what am I doing wrong if my life is completely different?
A mature person understands that social networks should not be trusted. Not necessarily because everyone is lying on their accounts. It’s just that people show the best moments of life, leaving life and routine behind the scenes. Comparing yourself to others is completely pointless. There are too many variables in this question that affect the result.
The best thing you can do is focus on your life, compete only with yourself yesterday and learn to enjoy what you have.
7. Mistakes of the past
A mature person understands that no one is immune from mistakes. And even if they led to a fatal result, there is little point in just worrying and suffering.
If the consequences of the error can be minimized or eliminated, this should be done. When correction is not possible, the miscalculation goes into the category of “events that cannot be controlled.” It is necessary to work on anxiety about them – sometimes with the help of a psychologist. Not being afraid to turn to a specialist is the position of a mature person.